If you've lived long enough, you've learned that life is not easy. (Understatement of the year right?) We learn that bad things happen and most of us are generally good people with good intentions.
Sometimes people ask themselves why bad things happen to them? They become depressed, angry , resentful. Some people will put up walls to prevent being hurt again. Others will cause those who hurt them hurt back. But does that really solve anything? Most times not.
When we trust someone, it is not really a guarantee. It is something we tell ourselves won't happen because we have faith in them. So why not live life with an open mind? Be open to loving and trusting someone even if they have broken your trust. Because if we are asking someone to "earn our trust" we are asking them to guarantee to not make any mistakes , which is quite simply an impossible task.
The mind shift is this: If we go into any relationship with love and compassion; with the understanding that we will be hurt someday by the ones we love and ultimately trust. We can find peace and happiness.
Trusting is a decision that is made for love. BECAUSE we love. For the sake of happiness. Trusting is knowing that there aren't any guarantee's. Trust is about agreeing to work through the hurt when it happens. Because it will happen. If we all love with this perspective, then trusting becomes so much easier. The shift happens when we stop trying to avoid being hurt, to recognizing that we can move through anything that comes our way.
Building a wall to prevent trust issues does not keep us safe, it keeps us lonely. It causes unnecessary pain to ourselves, and that's just no way to live is it?
Jump in and have faith. Trust that the one you love has good intentions. After all, they fell in love with you! Know that no matter what , you will be okay.
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